A major milestone for me was winning first place in extemporaneous
speaking at a tournament at Ball State University. I had never competed before. I didn't
know the feeling of being number one. I really liked it.
Anchor, NBC News; Dateline
My dad taught me to be competitive. He gave me a little tin shovel and
told me to shovel dirt off one little square piece of the sidewalk. He bet me he could do
the whole sidewalk in the same time, and he beat me. I threw my shovel down and had a fit
because I'd lost that competition. He never just let me win, but he provided challenges.
Marilyn Carlson Nelson
CEO Carlson Companies
Many of the successful women from our study listed "winning in
competition" as an important positive experience for them. They frequently described
the exhilaration and motivation they derived from winning. But, successful women
didnt always win; they had to cope with personal and professional losses and the
emotional fallout; they learned from those losses and regrouped to persevere.
|DARE TO COMPETE|
Take the risk of entering competitions. Enter some competitions in which you feel confident so you can experience the exhilaration of winning. Awards are personal affirmations. Also enter some competitions in which you feel less skilled. Not expecting to win helps you learn not to be too hard on yourself, and even small improvements can help you build confidence.
Competition and collaboration are not opposites. Selecting the appropriate occasions for cooperation and competition helps you learn to function successfully in a competitive society.
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